Preparing for the Kiddush was exhausting. The week before, I frequently has only 4 hours of sleep at night.
I became quite cranky and it was difficult to maintain a positive attitude. Through the sleep deprivation, I struggled to keep my focus of being grateful that we were celebrating my husband’s recovery. In a blink of an eye, I know the outcome could have been much different. Opportunities to celebrate life are rare and to be treasured.
Nevertheless, it was difficult to juggle work, day to day responsibilities, food preparation and all the organizational tasks involved in executing the event. I felt stretched to the limits.
So, my husband reminded me – “Just remember Who we are doing this for. At the end of the day, we have to keep in mind the guiding principles of why we are doing this. The food is secondary.”
Now, this is true, but it is not the whole truth. We are indeed spiritual beings having a physical experience, not physical beings having a spiritual experience. From this stems my belief our task in this world is to transform the physical into the spiritual. Therefore, our actions reveal who we are and what we value. Included in this is also what and how we eat.
So, the Kiddush is about the food but not about the food.
Food and eating are about physical substance and spiritual repair. Food cuts to the core of self-preservation and nurturance. It is really very primal.
On an absolute level, my husband is correct – the food is not in and of itself important. Nevertheless, I felt that it was important to have the event be beautiful and nourishing both physically and spiritually. I wanted our expression of gratitude to be dignified and demonstrate proper respect for the occasion.
Where my husband and I both agree is that when we keep in mind our true purpose for doing anything, ultimately, we will be guided to what we need to do and where we need to be.
In the final analysis, the Kiddush was a beautiful affair, both physically and spiritually. We have so much to be grateful for.
Thank you everyone who helped make this occasion so special and memorable.