While I was contemplating what to post on Father’s Day, I had an interesting conversation with my husband and girls on the phone. (I am working today and I am writing this on my lunch break.)
Neither my husband nor I grew up with much fanfare around Father’s Day.
Both my parents believed that everyday was Father’s and Mother’s Day. My mother-in-law (A”H), however, LOVED Mother’s Day.
So, I asked my husband, Yaffa and Raizel, “why do you think that Mother’s Day was so important to Grandma, and Father’s Day was not so important to Grandpa?”
Raizel’s interesting response was “because Grandpa loved Grandma.”
It was almost like she intuited this quote:
My husband’s response was interesting: “because fathers do not need the same things as mothers. Mothers need more acknowledgement for what they do.”
Hmmmmm…….. It made me think that perhaps there was some merit to Freud’s statement, “biology is destiny?”
Clearly mothering and fathering cannot be limited by biology.
Traditionally, men are the initiators and providers and women are the nurturers and builders. However, I believe that anyone who nurtures and provides for the growth and development of another is both a mother and a father.
Raizel, my little cutie ended the call saying, “Happy Mother’s Day and Father’s Day to both of you!”
I laughed. I couldn’t have said it better myself!
On a more personal note, my father (A”H) was an extraordinary person. I want to take this time to say, “Thank you Dad for everything! I am truly blessed to have you as my father.”
Just for fun, I also thought I would share this funny picture that a friend sent me:
Happy Father’s Day to everyone who creates and initiates and provides for the growth and well-being of others!”
This was such an enjoyable read. Thank you for sharing Carol! Have nice weekend!
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Thank you for reading! Enjoy your weekend too!
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You’re welcome! 🙂
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Oh, I really loved this, and had to chuckle. 🙂
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I thought Raizel was funny too.😉
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Great post and some lovely quotes…
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Thank you!😊
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Wonderful post!
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Thank you!
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love this post!
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Wise words, my friend! Thank you!
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Thank you!💖
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This was a very nice post to share with all of us. Personally, I enjoy your analysis as well as your sense of humor. You sound like a woman that has learned to live a truly fulfilling life.
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I truly appreciate your kind words. I try to find meaning and purpose to everything. I am grateful that others are willing to read and respond to my thoughts. So, thank you!
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Beautiful in every way! 🙂
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Thank you! Love is about letting your inner beauty shine.💖
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This was so wonderful about your in-laws! Sounds like your kids understand the idea of love and what a person values or hopes for is different. I think your in-laws brought up a good man who became your husband. Happy Father’s Day! Love is knowing whether something is a big deal or not (as your parents felt.) ❤
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You are so perceptive! My husband said something just like that. He said, “traditionally, mothers stayed home. And, that was perceived as less valuable, even though it’s actually as much or even more important than anything that men do. My father intuited that. He really appreciated all the work that Mom did at home.” Thank you for your thoughtful comments.
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So glad I expressed this like your husband! It is hard sometimes to know if saying something willgo over well. Smiles, Robin
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Great post! xo
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Thank you! It is quite off topic, but, these are the things I think about while working in the psych ward. Fathering is much less controversial than mothering!
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