Shared Joy: Happy Mother’s Day, Lag B’Omer & The Egg
Recently, in addition to being time challenged, I have been life challenged.
I am always dispensing advice and providing comfort to people in distress who are suffering.
Unlike many of my patients, who have mood disorders, I am not an emotionally volatile person. If I am in a bad mood, then chances are, there is a specific reason. But, I also practice rigorous self-care. All of the tools and techniques that I provide to my patients, I practice myself. Coping and maintaining a positive attitude is a daily mental discipline.
I am grateful for the disciplines that I practice. This past year has been particularly stressful, and these past few months have been even more so.
One unfortunate side effect is that I have been unable to blog recently. I find blogging creative and fun. It is so nice to finally have this opportunity to connect and share with everyone again. I have missed it!
There are too many wonderful celebrations today for me not to post. Today is Mother’s Day, as well as the holiday, Lag B’Omer.
Lag B’Omer is a festive day, which celebrates the passing of the great sage and mystic, Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, author of the Zohar. It also commemorates the end of a semi-mourning period. During the weeks between Passover (which just passed) and Shavuot (which will be occurring in about 2 weeks) there was a plague that occurred in which many of the students of Rabbi Akiva (teacher of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai) passed away. The reason for the plague was because “the students did not act respectfully towards each other.”
On Lag B’Omer, the deaths ceased, and the period of mourning ended.
The theme of this holiday is about loving and respecting people — even if you do not agree with them. It highlights the destructiveness of having one’s ego invested in being right, at the expense of the relationship or preserving the dignity and honor of another person.
Since the mourning practices are suspended, Lag B’Omer also happens to be a very popular day to get married. Unbelievably, today would have been my parents’ 60th wedding anniversary.
Today is Mother’s Day too. As I have shared in the past, my mother has always been very ambivalent about Mother’s Day.
This year, my mother called to thank us for the flowers we sent her. My mother yet again confirmed her ambivalence for what she calls a “Hallmark Holiday.” My mother said, “Everyday should be Mother’s Day. We should treat our loved ones nicely all of the time.”
I thought her comments dovetailed nicely with the theme of Lag B’Omer.
In keeping with her iconoclastic ideas, my mother has also informed me that she no longer wants to receive flowers for Mother’s Day. Instead, she is requesting that the money spent on flowers should be donated to a charity of our choice. What a nice idea! I just had to share it with everyone!
However, the coup de grace for today is that Yaffa ate a hard-boiled egg for the first time. It took a lot of cajoling and effort, but she did it! We are so proud!
So, happy Mother’s Day to everyone, Happy Lag B’Omer, and congratulations Yaffa!
It is good to be back.