Semi-Off Topic: Shared Joy – Happy Mother’s Day, Lag B’Omer & The Egg

Shared Joy: Happy Mother’s Day, Lag B’Omer & The Egg

Recently, in addition to being time challenged, I have been life challenged.

I am always dispensing advice and providing comfort to people in distress who are suffering.

Unlike many of my patients, who have mood disorders, I am not an emotionally volatile person. If I am in a bad mood, then chances are, there is a specific reason. But, I also practice rigorous self-care. All of the tools and techniques that I provide to my patients, I practice myself. Coping and maintaining a positive attitude is a daily mental discipline.

I am grateful for the disciplines that I practice. This past year has been particularly stressful, and these past few months have been even more so.

One unfortunate side effect is that I have been unable to blog recently. I find blogging creative and fun. It is so nice to finally have this opportunity to connect and share with everyone again. I have missed it!


There are too many wonderful celebrations today for me not to post. Today is Mother’s Day, as well as the holiday, Lag B’Omer.

Lag B’Omer is a festive day, which celebrates the passing of the great sage and mystic, Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, author of the Zohar. It also commemorates the end of a semi-mourning period. During the weeks between Passover (which just passed) and Shavuot (which will be occurring in about 2 weeks) there was a plague that occurred in which many of the students of Rabbi Akiva (teacher of Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai) passed away. The reason for the plague was because “the students did not act respectfully towards each other.”

On Lag B’Omer, the deaths ceased, and the period of mourning ended.


LOL! On Lag BaOmer, we also light bonfires.

The theme of this holiday is about loving and respecting people — even if you do not agree with them. It highlights the destructiveness of having one’s ego invested in being right, at the expense of the relationship or preserving the dignity and honor of another person.

Since the mourning practices are suspended, Lag B’Omer also happens to be a very popular day to get married.  Unbelievably, today would have been my parents’ 60th wedding anniversary.

Today is Mother’s Day too. As I have shared in the past, my mother has always been very ambivalent about Mother’s Day.

This year, my mother called to thank us for the flowers we sent her. My mother yet again confirmed her ambivalence for what she calls a “Hallmark Holiday.” My mother said, “Everyday should be Mother’s Day. We should treat our loved ones nicely all of the time.”

I thought her comments dovetailed nicely with the theme of Lag B’Omer.


Yaffa is a happy camper. The words mean “like 1 person with 1 heart.” Meaning, we are all united and share each other’s joys and sorrows.


In keeping with her iconoclastic ideas, my mother has also informed me that she no longer wants to receive flowers for Mother’s Day. Instead, she is requesting that the money spent on flowers should be donated to a charity of our choice. What a nice idea!  I just had to share it with everyone!

Yaffa ate a hard-boiled egg for the first time!

However, the coup de grace for today is that Yaffa ate a hard-boiled egg for the first time. It took a lot of cajoling and effort, but she did it!  We are so proud!

So, happy Mother’s Day to everyone, Happy Lag B’Omer, and congratulations Yaffa!

It is good to be back.


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38 thoughts on “Semi-Off Topic: Shared Joy – Happy Mother’s Day, Lag B’Omer & The Egg

  1. susieshy45 May 14, 2017 at 10:48 PM Reply

    Your mother has the greatest advice !
    Love her every day of the year and the keep the flowers for those who do not have any.

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 14, 2017 at 10:56 PM Reply

      Nice thought! I agree. I like the idea of “paying forward” the flowers, for something longer lasting. 🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷

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      • susieshy45 May 14, 2017 at 10:57 PM

        I don’t understand the Valentine’s day roses concept too. How easy is it to understand that people who we love, we can show love in every day tangible things and be their Valentine but the people who have no one to love them, they are the ones’ who need a Valentine’s day rose, at least figuratively.

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      • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 14, 2017 at 11:08 PM

        True! I think that is the point of the holiday — to remind people to be loving and kind all year long. It is easier to remember your intimate circle but so much harder to be mindful of people who are alone and possibly lonely.

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  2. koolkosherkitchen May 14, 2017 at 11:09 PM Reply

    So happy to have you back in the blogging world, and with a beautiful post!

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 14, 2017 at 11:11 PM Reply

      Thank you! I have missed it and I have so many recipes in my draft box. I like to write them when everything is fresh, but, something is better than nothing. Without the blog, I can’t keep track.


  3. Osyth May 15, 2017 at 3:55 AM Reply

    My mother shuns Mother’s Day also (the English one called Mothering Sunday which falls in March and is tied to the Easter calendar) and for the same reasons as your mother. Next year I will suggest to her that she let my brother’s and I do as your mother so sagely requests. It is a wonderful idea and she will love it, I have no doubt. I enjoyed this piece very much but I particularly, and selfishly, was happy to ‘see’ you. I notice your absence and have worried a little, in the way that one can worry about someone who in reality one does not know and yet is part of the ‘family of friends’ in this sphere. I missed you. I hope your stress is alleviating and I hope that you, the careful carer are taking good care of self. That is a selfishness that is vital, I think. And a last word for Yaffa and the egg. What a triumph! Clever girl 🌺

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 15, 2017 at 5:23 AM Reply

      It funny that it is called Mothering Sunday. One friend, when she stopped working to take care of her family used to say the she was “mothering” when someone asked her if she was working. I thought it was a great response.

      It has been very challenging to be not only a professional caregiver, but also the primary domestic caregiver too. There were days where I had to go to work to relax! It is fortunate that I teach meditation. 🕊

      I too was struck by my mother’s request. On her anniversary, no less. But, she wasn’t sad, and she spent the day enjoying herself with friends. She is a real trooper and truly a role model.🌷(try to watch the video)

      As for Yaffa, we are so proud of her too. In all the family commotion, in her quiet way, she showed a deep wisdom. Her emotional and social intelligence is very keen. But, her food repertoire diminished. When she gets stressed, she doesn’t want to work too hard to eat. We have to build her back up. Next, I would like her to eat oranges. That has more texture than a egg, but hopefully not too difficult to chew.

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      • Osyth May 15, 2017 at 5:27 AM

        Petits pas à petits pas we say here …. you will get Yaffa to take the oranges 🍊 and her stress will diminish and her food repertoire increase slowly slowly I am sure. Mothering is a wonderful word and I love your friend’s response to the question about work. Perfectly perfect. Being the primary domestic carer is a full and fulfilling and challenging and exasperating role in itself … you are an amazing woman and I am proud to know you in this place. 🌹

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      • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 15, 2017 at 5:36 AM

        Thank you so much for your kind words. I got cut off earlier, but I am happy to know that I was missed too. I consider this blog to be therapeutic and part of my self care.

        It is a funny world, this blogging sphere. We are connected through the media, which means we can glimpse the reflections of another’s life but be physically distant. It is sort of altered way of being. I am looking forward to visiting your blog again. I have lots of catching up to do.✍️

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      • Osyth May 15, 2017 at 6:13 AM

        Take your time and above all don’t feel you have to. It’s a rule! I like your assertion that we glimpse the reflections of another’s life whilst being physically distant and I also consider this part of my self-soothing

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      • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 15, 2017 at 7:00 AM

        😊Good to know I am not the only one.

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  4. sportsattitudes May 15, 2017 at 12:47 PM Reply

    Nice to read a new post Carol. Hope all is well and we look forward to future posts…when time comfortably allows and when you will most enjoy blogging. I’ve taken a few breaks from the blogosphere over the years and it always has been there when I’ve returned…and I do think I appreciate it much more coming and going now and then.

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 15, 2017 at 12:57 PM Reply

      Good to know. I can only blog when I am somewhat relaxed, otherwise my tension comes through. It is all about balance.

      I appreciate the camaraderie of the blogosphere. It’s nice to find people who share my interests.

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  5. Eli Pacheco May 15, 2017 at 1:03 PM Reply

    So much wisdom here! The key is in being able to love and respect those we don’t agree with – and every day. To love our mothers and the mothers of those we despise (why despise?) alike.

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  6. Ann Coleman May 15, 2017 at 3:35 PM Reply

    I love that quote, and am going to have to figure out how I can print it out and hang it where I can see it every day. Beyond that, thanks for this mother’s day post! Your mother sounds like a very wise woman….
    As for blogging, please know that your readers will gladly wait when you are too busy to post. We all have our priorities, and we are just happy to read what you come up with when you do post!

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 15, 2017 at 3:41 PM Reply

      Thank you! My mother is VERY cool. She is definitely her own person. I appreciate your support. This blog is sort of my hobby. I enjoy having a creative outlet. Plus, I really do need to organize my recipes. Whenever I cook, I now go to the blog to look up what I want to cook. It’s very handy.


  7. thecommutary May 15, 2017 at 3:48 PM Reply

    This is a great all around post. Made me think on many levels. I would love to hear or read more about your rigorous self care.

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  8. Pan May 19, 2017 at 1:28 PM Reply

    YaaY Yaffa !!! I’m rooting for her with the orange next 👍
    Your Mom has a keen and giving heart..

    Glad you’re back.. I hope stresses even out to a flatter plane..
    I’m still out more than in, in the blogging world.. Maybe someday I’ll get to blogging on a schedule, I just don’t see it yet..

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    • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 19, 2017 at 2:19 PM Reply

      Me too! On all fronts. I am up to my eyeballs in family care. The only thing is, the blog helps we organize my recipes, so I find it not only fun, but useful too. I am realizing that blogging is like a carousel: you jump on and off and everything keeps going ’round and ’round. 🎠

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      • Pan May 19, 2017 at 6:14 PM

        Me to for the recipe organizer ! Especially if I make something on the fly, if I don’t put it somewhere, I’ll never remember how I made it !

        The carousel is a good analogy.. I get so far behind on reading, I miss some great posts.. I just don’t delete my emails anymore so I can catch up.. Even with that I lose some.. I think I better check my email settings now that I think of that.. But I’m glad I got a glimpse into how you and yours are doing 😊💛
        Btw, I’ve tried 2 out of the several recipes you pasted for me about plantains.. And both turned out great.. I’m careful not to buy plantains unripened.. They aren’t easy to find.. They don’t ripen nicely for me in the truck..

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      • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 19, 2017 at 6:24 PM

        I think it’s the nature of the beast. But, now that I know with respect to blogging I need to relinquish control and go with the flow, I feel more comfortable.

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      • Pan May 20, 2017 at 2:28 AM

        That concept should be worded into a mantra about healthy blogging.. I can imagine you writing an article titled something like,
        How blogging can feel like a flogging (and how to stop it)

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      • Cooking For The Time Challenged May 20, 2017 at 9:31 PM

        Ha! Ha! My rule for this blog is: “if I have to think too much before I write, then it doesn’t need to be said.”

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      • Pan May 20, 2017 at 11:43 PM

        I should’ve read this comment on your page before answering
        “The list” reply to you on mine ! 😂
        You are such a hoot ! I’ve really missed our chats 💛


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